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　　标题：5BodyLanguageTipsYouNeedtoMaster
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　　Whenmeetingnewpeople，weoftenspendagreatdealoftimerehearsingwhattosay。WhatwillItalkaboutiftheconversationstalls？WillIsoundintelligent？WhatquestionsshouldIasktokeeptheconversationgoing？Whilethesearelegitimatequestions，itsworthnotingthatstudieshaveshownthatonlyabout7percentofcommunicationliesisthewordsthatyoureactuallysaying！Thirtyeightpercentiscommunicatedthroughtoneofvoice，andtheremaining（andlargest）portion，atawhopping55percent，iscommunicatedthroughbodylanguage。
　　Sodoeswhatyousaymatter？Absolutely。Butitsalsopossibleforyourwordsandbodylanguagetoactuallycontradictoneanotherandsendyourlistenermixedmessages。Considerthesefivebodylanguagesecretstobetterengageothersandhelpthemfeelbothheardandsecure。
　　1。Eyecontact
　　TheimportanceofeyecontactisbasicallyBodyLanguage101andyetmanystillseemtostrugglewiththisconcept。However，youmaybethebestlistenerandconversationalistintheworld，butifyoucantlooksomeoneintheeye，youaresendingawiderangeofmessageseverythingfromnervousnesstoboredomtoinsecurity。Establishingstrongeyecontactatthebeginningofaconversationimmediatelycommunicatesconfidenceandthatyourelistening。However，avoidwideeyedstaringnoneedtoboreintoanotherwithyoureyes。Itstotallyappropriatetolookawaybriefly。Agoodruleofthumbistofollowthecuesoftheoneyourespeakingwithtoensurethattheyarecomfor。
　　2。Headnods
　　Appropriatelyplacedheadnodsareavaluablewaytocommunicatethatyouarelisteningandengaged。Couplingthesegestureswithoccasionalverbalaffirmationsiseffectiveaswell。However，bemindfulofyourspeednoddingquicklyandrepeatedlycancommunicateimpatienceandthedesiretoaddtotheconversation（andcanalsomakeyoulooklikeabobblehead）。Slow，briefnodstellthepersonyouretalkingtothatyourefollowingwhattheyresaying。
　　3。Forgetthefiddling
　　Messingwithyourshirtsleeves，playingwithrings，checkingyourphoneormovingitfromhandtohand，tappingyourfingersallthesethingscanbequitedistractingtoaconversationandcanalsocommunicatethatyouareimpatient，bored，nervous，orrestless。Handgestureshavetheirplaceespeciallyif，whileyoureconversing，yourealsoengagedinanactivity（likeeating，forexample）。Buttrytobemindfulofwhatthesegesturesmightbesayingaboutyouandyourattitudetowardtheconversation。
　　4。Handsoffyourface
　　Speakingofhandgestures，makeanefforttokeepyourhandsawayfromyourface，asthesekindsofgesturesoftensubtlycommunicatenegativemessages。Forexample，touchingyourmouthcanindicatethatyourelying，fingeringyourearcancommunicatethatyoureunsureoryoudontknowananswer（evenifyourwordssaythatyoudo！），rubbingthebackofyourneckcanimplyboredom，andholdingyourchinmayindicatejudgment。
　　5。Theperfectposture
　　Slouchingis，ofcourse，adefinitenono，especiallywheninteractingwithothersintheprofessionalworld。However，sittingorstandingasstiffasaboardcanalsobejustplainawkward。Findahappymediumdontbeafraidtorelax，butalsokeepanappropriatestancesoastocommunicateyourprofessionalism。Whensitting，leaningforwardslightlyindicatesthatyourelisteningandengaged。Butmakesuretoavoidinvadinganothersspaceandmakingthesituationuncomfor。
　　Dontletinsecurityorrigidityhinderyoufromconnectingwithothers！Couplingalltheseguidelinestogethercanhelpyoutoavoidawkwardinteractionsandmakeapositiveimpressionbeforeyouevenopenyourmouth。